A Better Way to Find Love
FIND YOUR TRIBE
FIND YOUR MATE
Build a Tribe of Supportive Friends
and let Them be your Matchmakers
No More Rejection
No More Ghosting
No More Dead-End Dates
Modern American Dating Strategies Don't Work, Learn What Does
The Problem for Men
Asking a woman for her number the first time you meet results in a 4%-15% success rate, but less than 50% of women who give out their number to a stranger respond to a text.
Less than 20% of first dates with strangers lead to a second date and less than 3% lead to a long-term relationship.
In online dating, the top 10% of good-looking men get all the attention from women, the rest are largely ignored. The average man has to message hundreds of women to get a date, if he ever gets one. Dating sites have been caught numerous times creating fake profiles, using stolen pictures of attractive women, to string men along with false hope.
Statistically, a man can expect to be rejected by hundreds of women and spend thousands of dollars on dead-end dates to find a girlfriend by following convention dating practices.
It's no wonder that more single men than ever before have given up on dating.
The Problem for Women
Being approached by a stranger is intimidating, going on a date with a strange man is potentially dangerous.
Online dating creates the illusion of endless choices and encourages women to chat with only the most attractive and high-status men; the same few men all the other women on the site are after. These guys may chat a little, then they usually ghost. If they do ever ask you on a date, they often turn out to be fakes, not who they said they were in the chat room or they catfish, they don't even look like the pictures on their profile.
Why these Strategies Don't Work
Because we start at the middle stage of the relationship; dating, not the proper beginning stage; developing a real friendship in person
The Solution
How Successful Couples Actually Meet:
90% of people in long-term relationships met their partner through an introduction by a friend, co-worker or family member and by doing activities together in person, as friends, before dating. 10% met through all other means, including asking out strangers and online dating services.
The best way to get dates with compatible singles is to expand your social network; become friends with many people, spend time with them regularly, and let them be your matchmakers.
Ladies: There is no need to endlessly chat with men online who ghost you or who aren't looking for the same things you are. There is no need to attend random social events, waiting endlessly to be approached by a man you are interested in.
Gentlemen: There is no need for the high stakes emotional gamble of approaching a strange woman and asking for her number, only to suffer the pain of rejection, over and over.
There is no need to waste money on online dating services, only to be ignored or waste time chatting with fake profiles. There is no need to lavish expensive dates on women who only want a free meal and don't return your texts.
Networking is a better way to find love!
Join our Tribe!
Friendship First Dating
Friendship first dating is about being hard to get, not putting yourself in the Friendzone.
Friendzoning occurs when you ask for a date too early, get rejected, and are offered friendship as a consolation prize.
Friendship first dating is about maintaining a healthy reserve, waiting until you know a potential partner well enough as a friend to be confident that you are compatible, and they are showing obvious signs of interest in dating you, before asking for a date.
Our Events are Different
Other Singles Events
Typical singles events can be overcrowded, or no on shows up, you never know beforehand.
If you meet someone interesting, you don't know if you will ever see them again.
This creates a situation where you must ask for a date the first time you meet someone, before you know if you are compatible or whether they are really interested in you.
Our Events
Our club social mixers are RSVP only, so that we can assure there will be 20 to 50 club members at any event.
You will meet with your local crew of 10 to 25 club members at every monthly meeting, as well as different crew of 10 to 25 people. We rotate crews monthly so that you will meet with every local crew in your area, repeatedly, over time.
At our quarterly events, all members of the local club crews get together for a big party!
Membership Perks
1. RSVP access to one social mixer event monthly.
2. RSVP access to one monthly Ladies or Gentlemen's round table meeting, where we discuss dating and single life. A dating coach will attend to answer questions and give advice. (individual coaching sessions available at an additional fee)
3. RSVP access to our quarterly themed events including holiday parties, beach parties, and dances.
4. Our exclusive weekly email newsletter with dating tips and announcements about upcoming events.
What You can Expect at our Events
A variety of fun social mixers at different locations around the Twin Cities Area, held on weekend afternoons and weeknights. Some events will be casual: beach parties, barbecue's, visits to pubs and wineries. Some more formal, a chance to dress up. We hold larger themed events quarterly, such as holiday parties and dances.
Our Founding Meeting
In honor of our club's founding, we will host our first meetings in a formal atmosphere at a Downtown Minneapolis Hotel July 16th, 2025.
A variety of hors d'oeuvre and non-alcoholic wines and champagne will be served, accompanied by fresh flowers and tasteful background music. A host will greet you at the door and present you with your golden club nametag. After a brief introductory speech by the founder of the club, it's time to mingle!
Noveau Chivalry
A New Code of Honor for Ladies and Gentlemen
The Code of Chivalry is over 1000 years old, outdated and sexist. Cervantes was already making fun of it in 1605 in Don Quixote De La Mancha. Yet no moral code about dating has succeeded in replacing it in the mind of the public. Modern dating is a moral vacuum. Therefore, I humbly propose a new code of chivalry for your consideration. I hope it will serve as an interesting topic of conversation.
Kirk Arndt, Network Singles Club Founder
Ideals
Virtue: Acting in accordance with a moral code.
Honor: Earning and maintaining a reputation for acting in a virtuous manner.
Courage: Taking worthy risks to live virtuously and develop meaningful relationships.
Honesty: Practicing candor with those you trust.
Loyalty: Supporting those who support you.
Civility: Demonstrating courtesy and consideration to all who deserve your respect.
Code of Honor
Ladies and Gentlemen treat each other with kindness and consideration. The first party who reaches the door will open it for the other party, unless otherwise agreed.
Gentlemen and Ladies take responsibility for their actions. They do not blame others for their actions. They admit fault when they believe they are at fault, apologize and make amends.
Ladies and gentlemen take responsibility for their feelings. They do not shift responsibility by holding others accountable for their feelings.
Gentlemen and Ladies do not intentionally deceive one another. Neither are they obligated to reveal personal information, opinions or feelings, until they feel comfortable doing so.
Ladies and gentlemen do not gossip about one another regarding information shared in confidence. Information shared openly in public discussion provides tacit consent to share that information with others, unless the speaking party requests confidence.
Gentlemen and Ladies do not disparage one another behind their backs or on social media. Honest confrontation is encouraged in cases of unacceptable behavior. Discussions with friends about whether a behavior is unacceptable should be conducted while maintaining the anonymity of the person discussed. Lighthearted and playful joking, teasing and banter do not constitute disparagement, unless used as an excuse to put others down.
Ladies and gentlemen do not intentionally threaten, intimidate or abuse one another either physically or emotionally. Abuse is threat of real harm. Setting expectations, limits and conditions for a partner as a condition of having a relationship does not constitute abuse, it is setting boundaries. Being in a relationship is a privilege earned, not an entitlement with no obligations.
Gentlemen and Ladies only accept date offers in good faith. Date offers are accepted only when open to the possibility of developing a meaningful relationship, not just to enjoy a free meal at a fancy restaurant.
Ladies and Gentlemen decline date offers with kindness and consideration and are honest about why they are declining, if asked. They show consideration and respect for others feelings.
Gentlemen and Ladies decide how expenses will be handled before dates. It is a personal matter between two individuals to decide what is appropriate.
Ladies and Gentlemen reveal their relationship status when they begin to date. Any other commitments or situationships should be revealed, as well as preferences such as monogamy and polyamory.
Gentlemen and Ladies establish clear boundaries for the relationship before engaging in intimacy. Desires and limitations should be discussed and agreed upon.
Ladies and Gentlemen discuss their goals and expectations for the relationship before engaging in intimacy. Expectations related to commitment should be discussed and agreed upon.
Gentlemen and Ladies ask for consent before initiating intimacy. Once consent is given, it is the obligation of the consenter to revoke consent in a clear and unambiguous manner. Consent given is assumed to be ongoing until expressly revoked, unless the parties involved agree to a different arrangement.
Ladies and Gentlemen say considerate goodbyes when they choose to end a relationship and provide honest information about their decision, if asked. Ghosting is unacceptable, except under threatening circumstances.
Copyright 2025
Kirk Arndt
All rights reserved
A Message from the Founder
Kirk Arndt
Founder of Network Singles Club
My Goal
I started Network Singles Club to change dating culture in America for the better and heal the growing divide between the sexes.
My Story
I came to the conclusion that modern dating is flawed through my own relationship experiences. I dated until my mid 30's, was married for 20 years, and divorced a few years ago. Then I started dating again in middle age.
Dating after my divorce was like stepping out of a time machine and into a mystery. Attitudes towards dating are different today than before my marriage. Many people are discouraged about the prospect of finding a partner. I too had many frustrating and demoralizing experiences dating. I wanted to understand what was going on, so I went online.
But looking for good dating advice online today is like digging for diamonds in a manure pile. You are more likely to get rage-baited into doomscrolling exaggerated rants about the evils of the opposite sex than to find any helpful information.
Next, I looked to the scientific research and books written by experts with a track record of success. I researched modern dating and relationships intensively for several years. What I learned saddened and shocked me, but also brought me hope.
I realized that the way people in America date today, cold approach dating and dating apps, just doesn't work well for most people, most of the time. Our great grandparents didn't date this way, and neither do people in Europe or most of the world today. Cold approach dating was invented by Hollywood movies to create drama, and it doesn't work well, unless you happen to be James Bond.
I gradually came to understand that there is a better way, a much better way, to find a mate. A low-stress, fun approach to meeting people and dating that leads to a high chance of success, while eliminating most of the situations people find stressful and objectionable about modern dating practices. The friendship-first approach.
Invitation
I invite you to join me in proving to America that the Network Singles Club approach is a better way to find a partner. Let's build a tribe of supportive friends who will help each other find love!
My Promise to You
I sincerely hope to see you post your successful love story on this website someday. I promise you that I will do all I can to help you make it happen!
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